Tuesday, January 15, 2013

What is Forgiveness? (and, back in the saddle)

So, I'm back - again.  This time it's in order to actually be accountable in my Capstone class for school.  This is my last semester...my last three classes...the end.  As the professor for this class said, I'm on the 23 year plan.  Yes, it has taken me 23 years to get my degree.  For a while, I really had no intention of finishing.  But thanks to my wonderful boss, he told me it would be in my best interest to have my degree for advancement purposes.  Well, who can argue with that?  So now, 9 full classes later (including the dreaded dummy math and the loathsomely unnecessary music appreciation [because my 30 credit hours of music performance apparently don't count]), I'm at the end.  And boy, what a doozy of a semester this is likely to be.  Very, very labor and time intensive.  But I can do it.  I can see the light at the end of the tunnel.

So, to get this started, Dr. Lewis has posed the question:  What is forgiveness?

Forgiveness is letting go of a real or perceived wrong done to you.  I say real or perceived because there are times when one THINKS they've been wronged but they really weren't.  And, of course, there are times when the wrong is really real.  How does one let go?  Do they have to physically/verbally tell the wrongdoer that they're forgiven?  Does forgetfulness of the wrong count as forgiveness of the wrong?  I don't think so.  The wrongdoer doesn't know you've forgotten about the wrong.  They can assume, but they can't know.

I'll probably expound upon this more in coming weeks.  This is what I have for now.

1 comment:

Casey Pate said...

So I've been considering what we went over in class today and I've come to a conclusion about the whole "forgive or forget" dilemma. Our interpretations of the word forgiveness vary too much for us to be able to consider an example in an analytical light. The concept of forgiveness is, as someone pointed out, a process in which one tries to negate the negative prejudices they have towards another person. This is where we begin to differ in our mechanics of the process. My conclusion is, albeit more of a maybe than a definitive, as follows- forgetting is one of many ways we attempt to restore the notions towards an individual back to an unbiased state. I hope this helps with your elaboration at a later date.
-Casey